From the couple:We didn’t have a set wedding palette as the colors and textures at the Headlands are so diverse, but we chose a lot of lighter shades for spring: white, green, yellow, blush pink and purple. Anthony has family in Marin and I have a background in art, so the Headlands Center for the Arts held symbolic significance for us both. It’s a naturally beautiful site with a lot of history. After visiting, we knew right away that this was the venue for us. We wanted our wedding to environmentally friendly, so we made an effort to trim as much extraneous waste and decor as possible. We chose, for example, to skip printed invitations and menus. The Headlands already has a lot of character, so we focused on flowers and lights to dress up the space. All of the vases were made by Dulce‘s sister, the maid of honor, who is a ceramicist. Each one was unique and featured our initials and wedding date inscribed on the bottom–we gave these to our guests as favors to take home. Family and friends helped to make all the arrangements. It was a lot of work, but also a fun project that gave us added time together before the big day. We incorporated eucalyptus, which is present in two large groves on site, as well as peonies, roses, anemonies, ranunculus and scabiosa. The Headlands Center for the Arts wedding photos were an important part of our day. Our cake included strawberry blossoms to hint at the filling inside. We both love funk, soul and Motown, so we collaborated closely with our DJ to make this the background music for most of the day. We loved that within these genres we had a musical palette that ranged from lighthearted to sentimental to danceable. Anthony‘s sister is an awesome chef, and she made our wedding cake. It was a gorgeous (and delicious) semi-nude vanilla almond cake with passionfruit curd and fresh strawberry filling, topped with lemon Italian meringue buttercream, decorated with gold leaf and fresh flowers. We cut the cake with an antique server that belonged to Anthony‘s grandmother. Anthony wore a gray green suit made by Trumaker, with a textured forest green tie and purple socks (his favorite color). I knew that I wanted a dress and shoes that I could wear from the ceremony through dancing. My thought was, if I’m only going to wear it once, I want to wear it all day! I loved the way it looked in our Headlands Center for the Arts wedding photos. I chose and off-the-shoulder dress by Tadashi Shoji because I loved the movement in the ostrich feather fringe. My shoes were a low block heel by Chloe and I wore hoop earrings (my favorite). My satin jacket was made by my mom and featured an antique button that belonged to my grandmother. Anthony and I met in college, but didn’t start dating until years later. We were happy to share our wedding day with many old friends from school. He proposed at home in a heartfelt, informal way that reflected our love and friendship. Exchanging the vows we wrote for one another was the most meaningful and emotional part of the day. The love and positivity we felt radiating from our family and friends in that moment made it an incredibly powerful experience that we’ll never forget.
Try not to lose sight of why you’re planning this day. It’s easy to lose perspective and get caught up in details and expectations that are secondary to what marriage is all about. Make it a point to continually re-focus on one another and face the challenges together.